Maybe you have a goal. Maybe that goal seems very distant, or maybe you’re almost there. Maybe you’ve spent hundreds of dollars on outside help, or hours of time researching it. But through it all, you’re not able to get yourself up to actually do it. You may think it’s caused by lack of motivation, but that’s merely the symptom.
The disease is, you don’t really want it.
My name is Darryl Hicks, and as the Ceo of two companies, goal-setting is a core competency I’ve had to develop. After a few years at it, it’s easier for me to spot a bizarre scenario where someone has a goal, but simultaneously sabotages its achievement.
There are three reasons people might have this type of problem. Read reasons one and two here. Here is reason three:
- You wanted it, or worked for it, before.
If you want a goal, it should be because you want it now, not because you used to. Circumstances change a lot, and so should our goals. If you realized halfway to earning your music degree, that you would rather pursue Psychology, then feel free to switch.
And, like the other two, take the test.
- Has your master plan evolved since you made this goal?
- Do you have access to different information now than you did when you set the goal?
- If you woke up with amnesia, after getting your life back together, would you set the same goal again?
By now, you know what a “yes” answer implies. A goal set on past values may not hold up to today’s you.
What do you do if you don’t want it?
If you find your current goal isn’t for you, there are two paths you can take: Craft it, or scrap it. You can modify the goal to better fit your needs, and include anything that still resonates with you, or you can get rid of it entirely. Don’t feel like it’s locked into your permanent to-do, feel free to rip that page out, if you feel that’s best. Does doing so make you feel open, or free? It should.
After that, you need to set a new goal. If you’re having trouble, there are many talented advisors out there. Tell them Darryl Hicks sent you. They will know how to help.
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